Gay Men's Sex! - Rimming

Hi Guys

This is the first of a series on gay sex.

Rimming is safest when you use a barrier like a dental dam or slit a condom length wise and use it. Putting a little lube on the asshole may make it more sensitive!

Pleasure!
Rimming (eating ass, kissing - licking - tonguing your partner's asshole) is either really gross or one of the ultimate highs of man to man sex. It all depends on your perspective. The very thought of it repulses some men while for others it's a total turn-on. You can address this by doucheing beforehand, eliminating any odors and cleaning out any potential messy stuff.

Your asshole is rich in sensory nerves that can drive you, or your partner, wild when stimulated. Some guys find the most pleasure in being rimmed, while others love doing the rimming. The positions are many and varied; lying down, '69ing, on your knees... there are even "rim seats" designed just for the purpose.

You can lick across the ass in soft, wet strokes, or encircle it, going round and around languorously. You can flick the tongue-tip rapidly, or insert it inside as far as it'll go, pushing and stroking back and forth. Try brushing your lips gently over the spot, or hard on the anus, as if trying to draw it out. This is especially nice if you push your tongue inside. When you are being rimmed, push down and relax your asshole as if shitting, it should expand a little outwards, giving more area to caress and even nibble or bite (but not too hard).


Problems!
An asshole is an asshole no matter what you do and you can't sterilize it. No amount of cleaning will fully protect you from a variety of STIs and parasites if they are present in your partner's ass. Its a good idea to make sure its clean, just use some soapy water after you do number 2.

Parasites may cause symptoms of upper abdominal pain, bloody diarrhea and fever. HIV transmission through rimming is very low risk but you can get STIs, such as gonorrhea, hepatitis (A and B), chlamydia, human papiloma virus (HPV) , herpes and genital herpes and syphilis.

If you rim!
Ask your doctor to check you out for parasites (stool exam or blood test). Remember, you may not know you have been infected. Its a good idea to get tested regularly for STI's.

Consider limiting the number of men that you rim. Your risk of STIs and parasitic infections increases with your number of rimming partners.

Get your Hepatitis A and B vaccinations! If you rim, this is probably the single most important thing that you can do to protect yourself.

Get more information on safer rimming at ACT Toronto here.

STI Info at Ottawa Public Health